"The best way to forgive is to forget" is a lesson in William Shakespeare's work, The Tempest. Forgiveness is to stop feeling resentful towards someone for a mistake or offense they have made. The quote states that to forgive someone effectively, you have to forget about the mistake or offense they have made.
If someone made an offense toward me, I would forgive them but I wouldn't forget what they did. To forget would be to fail to take into account what they did when it comes to looking at the person's attitude. To forget would be foolish because you can use the information that they asked you to forget against them someday. For example, if a person is accused of stealing in court and you know that the person has had history of stealing before, you can use that information to let the judges make up their mind that that person is guilty. If you forgive and forget this person for that history of stealing, you won't be able to use the information because you swore you'd forget that he stole before.
On the other hand, this method of forgiving could be effective for building a more trusting bond between you and the person you are forgiving. It requires a lot of belief in reliability to forgive because you trust that this person won't repeat whatever his offense was.
To me, this must be very hard to do because you can't just forget a bad deed that someone did especially if it heavily affects you. I have not experienced to actually use this lesson in real life because I'm the kind of person that says I do forgive someone but in my mind, I really don't unless it's a very small and insignificant thing.
In summation, I would forgive but I would not forget.
If someone made an offense toward me, I would forgive them but I wouldn't forget what they did. To forget would be to fail to take into account what they did when it comes to looking at the person's attitude. To forget would be foolish because you can use the information that they asked you to forget against them someday. For example, if a person is accused of stealing in court and you know that the person has had history of stealing before, you can use that information to let the judges make up their mind that that person is guilty. If you forgive and forget this person for that history of stealing, you won't be able to use the information because you swore you'd forget that he stole before.
On the other hand, this method of forgiving could be effective for building a more trusting bond between you and the person you are forgiving. It requires a lot of belief in reliability to forgive because you trust that this person won't repeat whatever his offense was.
To me, this must be very hard to do because you can't just forget a bad deed that someone did especially if it heavily affects you. I have not experienced to actually use this lesson in real life because I'm the kind of person that says I do forgive someone but in my mind, I really don't unless it's a very small and insignificant thing.
In summation, I would forgive but I would not forget.
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